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  How do you make new friends when you are 40+ ?
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. said:Correct. In the real world, you have strategic alliances. And you should use those alliances to achieve your goals (women, business, specialized advice, talk about shit that interests you).

I know a shitload of cases - other people and my own experiences - where people thought they had good friends, but then got BRUTALLY backstabbed by them. Life wrecking backstabbings, in business, in relationships.

I know a few people who got emotionally wrecked when their bf/gf ended up cheating on them with their best friend. That kind of shit can cause serious depression, and cause people to lose their job. When your bf/gf cheats on you with a someone you don't know, it's not nearly as devastating.

I know one guy who started a business, told his best friend all his internal ideas & concepts (thinking that he was just bouncing ideas off of a best friend), and his best friend copied his idea, created a competing business, and put him out of business.

Protect yourself at all times.

Structure everything as a strategic alliance that is to your advantage.

If you want a friend, get a dog.

ABC. Always Be Closing.



Sadly I can say this is right. Ex went for my ex best friend. He died, so ha ha, but still I would have been much worse off if I still liked him. He died though, so too bad so sad. Funny part? I thought that it said a lot more about my ex and her fucked up state, than anything else. Sad..

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. said:I'm 40 and single (for real) and I know it's tough. Everyone your age is married and busy with kids and work. You don't really fit in with the younger crowd anymore. All your friends think they know how to fix you because they can't relate to what it's really like out there. There's no commitment at the bar. Churches are too much of a hassle... except maybe Catholic churches if you're not devout. Going back to school would just mean hanging out with a bunch of girls too young to be interested in you. You really only have a few options.

1. You can make new friends at a new job.
2. Get involved in some sort of active group/organization... Peace Corps... something.
3. Um...

That's about it. Whether you move or stay put, your friends are all going to move away to care for elderly family members, find work, live close to friends, etc. Moving somewhere new just gives you a whole new bag of the same shit. Traveling is okay but people are only so nice to tourists because they know you're leaving. And, when you leave, you might as well have never been there. They'll write for a month or two. Online buddies are okay but make one mistake and you get deleted.

I think, really, you've just got to learn to be your own best friend and learn to cope with independence. Find something you like to do and do it.

Work. Church. School. That's where people meet. Outside of that... it's random dumb luck. This Sun Tzu Wall Street dude up here thinks it's a numbers game. It's not. It all comes down to chance. If you make some good friends, dude, consider yourself lucky. You are fortunate.

Good luck. I hope it happens for you.



The thing to remember is there's a price for everything. Meeting people at work seems like a good idea, but it's best not to get too close. Remember, most people will dump you in an instant if they decide their career is more important.

Church is fine if you're prepared to let someone fill your head with some fucked up religious bullshit fairytale that has no relevance to the real world, but again, you have to just nod your head all the time. Religious people will dump you as soon as they sense you questioning their faith.

The real answer, as you said, is to learn to be your own best friend. This is where you get the real value of travelling alone. Constantly meeting new people and having to adapt to your environment helps you become more self-sufficient.

Besides, the world is fascinating an
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The thing to remember is there's a price for everything. Meeting people at work seems like a good idea, but it's best not to get too close. Remember, most people will dump you in an instant if they decide their career is more important.

Church is fine if you're prepared to let someone fill your head with some fucked up religious bullshit fairytale that has no relevance to the real world, but again, you have to just nod your head all the time. Religious people will dump you as soon as they sense you questioning their faith.

The real answer, as you said, is to learn to be your own best friend. This is where you get the real value of travelling alone. Constantly meeting new people and having to adapt to your environment helps you become more self-sufficient.

Besides, the world is fascinating and full of possibilities. Too many friends can get in your way and limit you while the world is out there. You should be out there exploring the possibilities on your own. By all means, leave the door open for friends if they share your dreams and ambitions, but be prepared to move on when they don't. Reach a point where you're going to have a good time with our without friends. Then you'll have it made.
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. said:It's a tough world out there, dawg. It's like, you realize you ain't never gonna have nobody who's really got your back, so it's all about clocking duckets -- Getting an investment banking job, being ripped, having a full heard of hair, watching American Psycho and Wall Street too many times. Shit like that. You gotta be cold, bro. Cold as ice. Cause that's just how alphas roll. In business and love. It's like Sun Tsu said, all warfare is based on deception. Dig it, I'm deep. Cold yet deep, bro. Cash and pussy, dawg, what else is there?
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PARODY OF THE DAY! :thumbup:

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. said:It's a tough world out there, dawg. It's like, you realize you ain't never gonna have nobody who's really got your back, so it's all about clocking duckets -- Getting an investment banking job, being ripped, having a full heard of hair, watching American Psycho and Wall Street too many times. Shit like that. You gotta be cold, bro. Cold as ice. Cause that's just how alphas roll. In business and love. It's like Sun Tsu said, all warfare is based on deception. Dig it, I'm deep. Cold yet deep, bro. Cash and pussy, dawg, what else is there?
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Fuck I love this guy. I've not read anything this funny in ages. Even better is the fact that so many here don't even know that it's a piss-take and some posters are even giving witness. What a world...what a world... :lol:
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. said:I'm 42, and have no problem dating hot 21-25 yr old women.

Requirements:

- Look great. Be ripped, full head of hair, well dressed.

- Great resume. When someone asks what you do for a living, you need to be able to give a quick answer that is really impressive, and will attract virtually all women. Like "I'm a doctor" or "I'm an investment banker with Goldman Sachs" or "I'm a real estate developer. I own several skyscrapers in midtown Manhattan".

- Be confident, likeable, charismatic. You should be able to enter a room full of 100 people, of all races, religions, and political views, press palms with everyone, and get everyone to like you.

- Build & maintain your network. Women will introduce you to more women, and they will invite you to more parties, where you'll meet more women.

- Numbers game. Work every channel possible. Online dating sites, social events, daygame. Each week, you should get phone numbers from at least 10 new women. Email & facebook are also important channels to communicate with young women.



In other words, lie a lot and... be a 25 year old who thinks this crap will still work when you're 40.



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You hit the nail on the head, this is how 25 year olds think its going to be for them at age 40.
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. said:you buy them by the hour



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they're called "therapists"
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. said:You could realize there is no point to having "friends" once you hit your 30s. After that "friendship" is nothing but a circle of acquaintances who have the potential to be useful to each other; there are no friends.



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. said:It's a tough world out there, dawg. It's like, you realize you ain't never gonna have nobody who's really got your back, so it's all about clocking duckets -- Getting an investment banking job, being ripped, having a full heard of hair, watching American Psycho and Wall Street too many times. Shit like that. You gotta be cold, bro. Cold as ice. Cause that's just how alphas roll. In business and love. It's like Sun Tsu said, all warfare is based on deception. Dig it, I'm deep. Cold yet deep, bro. Cash and pussy, dawg, what else is there?
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Fuck I love this guy. I've not read anything this funny in ages. Even better is the fact that so many here don't even know that it's a piss-take and some posters are even giving witness. What a world...what a world... :lol:



Thank you dawg, I feel you, bro. And a shoutout to my potd homie upthread, werd up yall.

I guess a lot of people don't know what it's like to be a real balla. The can't relate, they can't even comprehend, becuase by the time the figured out what happend an hour ago, I'm already two hours ahead of em, gnowhutI'msayin? Money never sleeps, dawg. And you gotta be a Renaissance man too, word? It's like, one night I might be sitting by my marble fireplace alone reading Thucydides or Lao Tsu, just drinking one of my rare sherries in a snifter glass. Just basking in the subdued taste and refined pathos, imprisioned in my solitary tower of superiority, dig? And then the next night, I'm balls deep in four sobbing lesbian sluts who are begging for my cawk not because of all the drugs I been feeding them, but because they can naturally smell my Alpha musk. It's like, women recognize, dawg. They recognize everywhere, even if people on this board can't. It ain't all Beijing IPOs and Bauxite mining in Tanzania, bro. Sometimes the solitary side gets to you, makes even an alpha shed a manly tear or two, am I right bro?
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. said:Seriously , is it even worth bothering ?
I have not met anyone remotely interesting in the last 5 years.
Is this all a lonely single Trev can look forward to, solitude ? :cry:



stop posting here, and the problem will resolve itself.
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. said:stop posting here, and the problem will resolve itself.



And you tards wonder why the board is dying.
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There is 0% chance any of this is true.



He does make a couple of good points, but a lot of it is crap. Meeting women is a numbers game if you want to meet a quality woman for a relationship, but less so if you just want a fuck & chuck. Then it's all about game.

Choosing your guy friends wisely is also important. Stay the fuck away from anyone with big debts -- they'll only want to hit you up for money later on.

Really, you need to spend as much time as possible with successful role models -- either real world friends or reading self improvement books or self-improvement DVDs and so on. This stuff can get into your mind eventually and have a subtle but important impact on who you are, so keep successful people around and drop whiners, complainers and losers.

Friends are overrated. It's good to have a few good friends close at hand, but too many will drag you down with responsibilities you don't need.



Holy shit... You just pretended to be someone else defending your crappy ideas. lol
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. said:...Reach a point where you're going to have a good time with our without friends. Then you'll have it made.



It's hard to manage. Definitely involves a sweet gaming console.
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Spermb-guzzling skillz help
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There is 0% chance any of this is true.



He does make a couple of good points, but a lot of it is crap. Meeting women is a numbers game if you want to meet a quality woman for a relationship, but less so if you just want a fuck & chuck. Then it's all about game.

Choosing your guy friends wisely is also important. Stay the fuck away from anyone with big debts -- they'll only want to hit you up for money later on.

Really, you need to spend as much time as possible with successful role models -- either real world friends or reading self improvement books or self-improvement DVDs and so on. This stuff can get into your mind eventually and have a subtle but important impact on who you are, so keep successful people around and drop whiners, complainers and losers.

Friends are overrated. It's good to have a few good friends close at hand, but too many will drag you down with responsibilities you don't need.



Holy shit... You just pretended to be someone else defending your crappy ideas. lol



Nope, I really am someone else. Ask KGB for an IP check if you don't believe me.
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. said:It's hard to manage. Definitely involves a sweet gaming console.



Nope, no gaming console over here at all. Just plenty of outdoor hobbies that get me out of the city on a regular basis, and that's about all I need.
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. said:The thing to remember is there's a price for everything. Meeting people at work seems like a good idea, but it's best not to get too close. Remember, most people will dump you in an instant if they decide their career is more important.

Church is fine if you're prepared to let someone fill your head with some fucked up religious bullshit fairytale that has no relevance to the real world, but again, you have to just nod your head all the time. Religious people will dump you as soon as they sense you questioning their faith.

The real answer, as you said, is to learn to be your own best friend. This is where you get the real value of travelling alone. Constantly meeting new people and having to adapt to your environment helps you become more self-sufficient.

Besides, the world is fascinating an



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I've been quite the job hopper. In my 20s and 30s, I had a lot of friends I met from work. But since I turned 40, I can think of 1 or 2 people whom I'd even want to become friends with.

Most of your like-age peers are married with kids - their lives revolve around their kids. Unless yuo want to hear 4 hours worth of blathering about their son's soccer game every week, not a good option.

Other married tards will instantly try to set you up with their wives' 40-something girlfriends, as if your only goal *must be* to get married like them. When you politely decline their offer to set you up with some 200 lb. hambeast who has 2 kids from a previous marriage, they sour on you, as if to say, "you're 42 years old - why *WOULDN'T* you want to be married? Yes, this woman may weigh 200 lbs., but just think of the good times you can have spending time with (read: financially supporting) her and her kids." They can't even fathom why you would choose to be alone and do your own thing > supporting some other guy's kids.

This morning, I'm watching CNBC and they're reviewing last night's Super Bowl ads. "Tee-hee, OMG that was so funny!" Umm, yeah, only if you are 12 years old or have an IQ of <80. Honestly, I don't think I'd want to be friends with mental imbeciles like that.
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After age 40, I have met two people I would considered good friends. I also got rid of friends from my earlier times. Thought they were 'real' friends, but they were not. Like previously posted, you MUST BE YOUR OWN BEST FRIEND.
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Young men make friends in order to meet women. Older married men make friends with wives in order to keep their wives and children entertained.

If you're over 40 and not married it hardly seems worth the bother to make friends. It's a lot of time and trouble, and they'll probably end up screwing you somehow in the end.
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What about making female friends? Is it worth it? I mean, say some young hot chick wants you to be her "old dude" friend but doesn't think of you in a sexual way, is that worth your time or not? Why? Why not?
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. said:What about making female friends? Is it worth it? I mean, say some young hot chick wants you to be her "old dude" friend but doesn't think of you in a sexual way, is that worth your time or not? Why? Why not?



You have to do a cost vs benefit analysis.

If she's going to send you party invites, and introduce you to attractive young women, then that's a great benefit.

But if she demands that you talk to her several hours a week in order to maintain the friendship, then that's a cost.

With all your friendships, you want to maximize the benefit, and minimize the cost in resources (time, money, connections).

You should view everyone in this world as a pawn.

How much can you extract from them, while using minimal resources?
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