Posted 2/4/2012 9:42 pm
Seriously , is it even worth bothering ?
I have not met anyone remotely interesting in the last 5 years.
Is this all a lonely single Trev can look forward to, solitude ?
Posted 2/4/2012 9:46 pm
become an alchoholic, i learned to drink 3 bottles of spirits every day for 3 months till i became an alchoholic and now, i have plenty of friends.
Posted 2/4/2012 9:48 pm
Fuck, at least these days we can have a simulacrum of a social life with the internet. Imagine what it would have been like to be growing up some lonely ageing nerd in the 70s or 80s...nothing but baked beans in your boarding-house room, you and the sagging cot, maybe a sad old black and white Zenith TV with tinfoil on the rabbit ears.
I remember these miserable cases shuffling around the city like ghosts when I was a kid...now at least they have facebook, porn, and video on demand.
- Look great. Be ripped, full head of hair, well dressed.
- Great resume. When someone asks what you do for a living, you need to be able to give a quick answer that is really impressive, and will attract virtually all women. Like "I'm a doctor" or "I'm an investment banker with Goldman Sachs" or "I'm a real estate developer. I own several skyscrapers in midtown Manhattan".
- Be confident, likeable, charismatic. You should be able to enter a room full of 100 people, of all races, religions, and political views, press palms with everyone, and get everyone to like you.
- Build & maintain your network. Women will introduce you to more women, and they will invite you to more parties, where you'll meet more women.
- Numbers game. Work every channel possible. Online dating sites, social events, daygame. Each week, you should get phone numbers from at least 10 new women. Email & facebook are also important channels to communicate with young women.
Posted 2/4/2012 9:55 pm
You could try enrolling in a hobby class (painting, etc.), joining a meetup.com activity of your choice, or try one of those livingsocial group activity things ("summer camp" for adults, wine-making, etc.). It forces interaction in an interesting environment where it's not awkward and you have plenty of opportunities to chat with people casually about yourselves, what you're doing... all that good friendship-fostering stuff. Having a shared experience outside of your normal routine is what creates bonding for most people.
In warfare, you want to capture as much territory as possible, while using minimal resources.
In dating & life, your resources are generally time, money, connections.
A hobby class has a rigid time frame that can consume a shitload of fixed time.
For every 10 hours of a hobby class, how many female phone numbers are you going to get? The bang for your buck is not good.
It's better to focus on happy hour / networking type events, where you can walk in, collect phone numbers from all the hot chicks in 30 minutes, and then walk out. Additionally, if you walk in, and see that there are no hot chicks, you can walk out in 5 minutes. No big deal. It's a flexible time arrangement.
But that's harder to do with a painting class. You're not going to sign up for some painting class, sit down at your easel, look around, and then say "fuck this shit, there are no hot chicks here", throw down your paintbrush, and storm out.
Just look at the sociopaths who get elected President, become fortune 500 CEO, or become tech billionaires like Bill Gates, Steve Jobs, Mark Zuckerberg, Larry Ellison. Look at all the hot chicks having sex with lying scumbags. We live in a world that favors sociopaths. That's reality.
Drop the idealism about "actual friends". What's more important is getting everyone to like you, and extracting what you want from them.
We are not all one happy family.
We are not all equal.
Only 1% of people can be in the top 1%.
I suggest that you play to win.
That sounds exhausting. Don't you ever get tired of the fact that you never actually make a lasting connection? It's all just disposable fnc's. Nothing wrong with a few fnc's here and there but you're proposing dedicating all of your time to it. Seems rather empty.
1) It's a numbers game. The more women you meet, the greater chance that you'll meet the perfect wife candidate, that you can settle down with for life, if you want. That's your choice. The more women you meet, the more options you have.
2) If you're a responsible person like myself, then close friends are more of a burden, because they'll take more than they give. And that's the opposite of what you want to do in battle. You want to extract from others, while giving up virtually nothing.
This is especially true with guys. Guys are always calling me, wanting to hang out, chew up my time, and tap into my network of women & parties. If I let them tag along, some might even try to poach one of my women. Stupid fucking leeches. Waste of my time.
As a result, for guy friendships, I focus on guys who are rich, married with kids, and living far away. That way, we can talk for free on skype about sports, business, politics, tech, etc. But when I put the headset down, we are done. They never ask for money, and never want to hang out, or leech off of my network of women & parties.
We'll write letters of recommendations for each other (like for gun permits, lawyer's application to bar association, etc). But that's generally cut & paste, takes 2 minutes, while helping us out a lot. Good bang for the buck, in terms of time spent, and how much it benefits us.
Also, stay the fuck away from poor guys. They are the most likely to get into financial/legal/medical trouble, and come begging for money.
My network is like this..
- 1000 local young women who I go to parties with. In a typical year, I add 500 new women, and lose 500 women (move away, get married, etc), so the number stays around 1000.
- 200 local guys who I know socially, and press palms with, but I avoid hanging out with them directly. I exchange contact info, just for networking purposes. Some are police officers, lawyers, city council members, doctors, etc. Good contacts to have when I need them.
- 50 long-time friends from high school & college days, living far away. For reasons stated above, I focus on rich, married w/kids, and living far away. I talk with these guys on skype quite often, as stated above.
I thought the topic was "how to make friends", not "how to trick young girls into thinking you are successful to get them to sleep with your old nasty ass." I must have missed something.
Tonns of poon and lots of card and golf games.
